78. Exes and the City w/Jenna Langbaum

Jenna Langbaum, author of Me In Search of You, gives an honest and unfiltered view of what it’s actually like to date in New York through short stories that span everything from a first date rife with overshares, Bumble profile dealbreakers, and the sinking realization you’re being ghosted by someone you weren’t even that into. She distinguishes the few moments in the city that DO actually make you feel like Carrie Bradshaw vs. the modern dating experiences that are notably absent from Sex and the City, Gossip Girl, Friends, and the like.

For more of Me in Search of You (and some bonus stories) : @jennalangbaum

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com

For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com

For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

74. Un-HINGEd Dating w/Ilana Dunn

Ilana Dunn from Seeing Other People podcast shares her perspectives around online dating as a former Hinge employee (pre- Roses and voice prompts). We expose ill-advised dating behaviors driven by insecurity, like FBI-level social stalking and future-tripping after one date, and contrast what it feels like to finally date someone who you don’t have to consult your group chat about. Ilana also opens up about the difficulties behind cohosting her podcast with someone she previously dated, and finally puts to rest the age old question of whether or not exes can truly be friends.

For more unfiltered dating conversations : @seeingotherpeople

To go from Seeing Other People to seeing Ilana : @ilana.dunn

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com

For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com

For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

73. Leveling Up Your Love Life w/In Your Twentys Podcast

Tinah Ogalo of In Your Twentys podcast shares her perspective on dating as a 23-year-old navigating post-college life. We discuss Tinder’s reputation as a hookup app, its prominence in campus dating culture, and the situationships that have arisen from her own swiping. We close with the single piece of advice she thinks everyone in their 20s should follow, and why it essentially boils down to not giving a fuck.

To watch Tinah slaying her 20s : @tinah.ogalo

And to hear Tinah’s advice on how you can slay your 20s : @inyourtwentys

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com

For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com

For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

65. Shoot Your Shot Girl Summer

Katelyn Zeff, sister to my friend and former guest David Zeff, chronicles her journey of dating in NY in search of a meaningful connection. We discuss how how to remain confident and positive in the face of the ghosting, unsolicited sexts, and recurring threesome propositions that plague hot girl (AND boy) summer.

To shoot your shot with Katelyn: @kzeffy

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com

For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com

For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

63. For Better…and For Worse

David Zeff opens up about dating after divorce in arguably the most vulnerable Interstates & Heartbreak episode to-date. He outlines the journey of his last relationship- from first Tinder swipe, to “I do,” to eventually parting ways. We’re left pondering questions around closure, and David’s romantic future.

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com

For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com

For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

60. Will You Accept This Hinge Rose?

Alex and I dive into persistent dating app woes – is there any way to send a Rose or a Super Like without coming across as desperate? How do you deal with the ego hit of getting rejected by someone you weren’t even into in the first place? Is it a dealbreaker if your match (or coworker) won’t stop casually mentioning masturbation? And what new challenges arise when you finally meet someone IRL?

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com

For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com

For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

58. QUICKIE EPISODE – Gotta Get With My Friends (Pt. 2)

Karen returns for a quickie episode! She shares a story about the unexpected ramifications of inviting your Tinder date on vacation in Mexico, including (but not limited to) the continuous peer pressure to take body shots.

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com

For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com

For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

57. Gotta Get With My Friends

This week Karen and I dive into the intersection of the platonic and the romantic relationships in our lives, and explore the widespread impact of friendship dynamics on dating. We enter the dreaded friend zone, discussing how to determine if you’re stuck in it, and her identity as “The Friend Zone Queen.” We also unpack dynamics between friends and significant others, like when to introduce them, and how to deal if you don’t like your friend’s partner or vice versa – including a very unfiltered roast of my ex from Karen’s perspective.

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com

For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com

For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

56. Date Like a Matchmaker

On this week’s episode I interview Ariel Rosen about her experience in a career field she was seemingly destined for – personal coaching and matchmaking. She reveals some of the most valuable dating philosophies she imparts on her clients, and how that impacts her own approach to relationships. We also dive into how her career impacts men’s perceptions, and why her romantic rejections are often met with awkward and unsexy replies like “Can you coach me on how to get you?”

To get matched by Ariel : mastermatchmakers.com or LinkedIn

To connect with Ariel for all other coaching and guidance : @riel-light

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com

For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com

For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

53. BDE (Big Dateable Energy)

This week I’m joined by the extremely dateable ladies of The Undateable Podcast, Jasmine and Lauren. We dive into what it means to be fuckable but not dateable, as well as the standards society expects you to meet in order to be classified as “wifey material.” Jasmine and Lauren open up about both sexual adventures and misadventures, and discuss how to own so-called “undateable” moments (like a particular anal plug mishap) and transform them into unapologetic confidence.

For a peek at the personal dating stories that inspired Jasmine to start a podcast to begin with : @thedoglord

For all the Instagrammable photoshoot inspiration you could ever dream of : @lodofasho

For the backstory of Lauren accidentally shitting her pants on a date, and MUCH more unmissable content : Undateable Podcast

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com

For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com

For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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