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This week Interstates & Heartbreak steps into the GLAMOROUS side of dating in Los Angeles with Kyle Lau – producer, director, and WGA Award nominated writer on shows like Family Guy, Fresh Off The Boat, and Nora From Queens. We discuss all aspects of young professional life in Hollywood, including dating around a hectic work schedule, working in male-dominated spaces, and navigating romantic interactions in an industry with historically blurred boundaries. Kyle opens up about what it was like to transition from being notoriously single and swiping, to breaking the comedy writer stereotype by entering a happy long term relationship.

For proof that Kyle IS in fact a sexy Asian man : @kidklau

And for proof that he’s much more than just a pretty face : kylelau.com

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

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For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com

For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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This week, Interstates & Heartbreak provides the male take on matchmaking from none other than a former guest’s first date through Three Day Rule Matchmaking (40. “Painting Red Flags Pink” w/Jenna Cutter). Brandon Maier opens up about what it’s like to utilize a matchmaker on both the client side and the match side, with insights into what he looked for in a matchmaking company, non-negotiable partner traits, and his TRUE motivation behind signing up for Three Day Rule.

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

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For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com

For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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This week I interview Jenna Cutter – fashion entrepreneur, business woman, and founder of Chloe Madison LA. We discuss what it looks like to hold high standards for yourself in dating – from finding happiness on your own, to refusing to put other relationships on a pedestal. Jenna shares how her standards inspired her to take dating into her own hands and sign up for Three Day Rule’s matchmaking services. We also dive into her past relationship with her daughter’s dad, and what that taught her about red flags and narcissistic tendencies.

For a glimpse into Jenna’s life AND closet : @chloemadisonla

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

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For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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This week I interview the Notorious RZB – Rustom Z. Birdie. We open with a nostalgic discussion about our friendship, during which I reveal the height of my alcohol-induced narcolepsy, and my college crush that never went further than a makeout session prior to Rustom coming out. The remainder of the episode dives into all aspects of coming to terms with your sexuality – breaking the news to traditional parents, understanding how your identity fits within the broader gay community, thoughts on performative allyship, and diving into the wilder side of the gay scene in San Francisco. We close with a game of red flag dealbreaker – Silicon Valley tech bro edition.

Don’t slide into Rustom’s LinkedIn DMs – but DM him on Instagram for more SF bar recs : @zebirdman

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

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For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com

For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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This week I interview long time friend and enabler in shenanigans, Nandini Taneja. We reminisce on the poor life decisions made at UCLA that put both our livelihood and dignity at risk on a number of occasions, and bonded us through the process. From there, we discuss the mindset behind being perpetually single, reluctance around defining the relationship, and coping with gaslighting and deception immediately after giving into the concept of exclusivity. Finally, Nandini opens up about the unintentional impact that her approach to dating had on gender roles and power dynamics, and explains how her approach and relationship status have evolved over time.

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com

For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com

For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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This week Interstates & Heartbreak features none other than my mom! She opens up with her honest thoughts about the podcast, and shares her side of some stories that I’ve told in previous episodes. From there, we dive into her experience teaching sex ed and the concept of healthy relationships as a high school biology teacher. We cover everything you “should” know (How do vasectomies really work? How do I calculate my ovulation cycle?) and the questions you never knew you needed the answers to (Does anyone really use dental dams? What’s the scientific name for blue balls?).

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com

For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com

For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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This week, Interstates & Heartbreak throws it back to episode one, with my inaugural podcast guest Denzel Walkes. We open with an update on Denzel’s dating life, and how one of my former guests inspired him to revamp his strategy on the apps. From there we unpack all of the implications around women asking men out, with a discussion ranging from the games people play in dating, traditional gender roles, and whether we’ve fully evolved beyond them. The episode closes with an unabashed critique of the traditional dating handbook, The Rules.

For even MORE hot takes from Denzel : @thatdenzel

And to hear his theatrical takes : No Concessions Podcast

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

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For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com

For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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This Valentine’s Day I practice some self love…in the form of my second solo episode! I chronicle my experience joining OKCupid during a week with added dating pressure and my polarizing approach to crafting app bios. I then outline the profile tropes I encountered – ranging from seasonal fuckboys to Shakesperean poets.

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com

For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com

For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope