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This week I interview the Notorious RZB – Rustom Z. Birdie. We open with a nostalgic discussion about our friendship, during which I reveal the height of my alcohol-induced narcolepsy, and my college crush that never went further than a makeout session prior to Rustom coming out. The remainder of the episode dives into all aspects of coming to terms with your sexuality – breaking the news to traditional parents, understanding how your identity fits within the broader gay community, thoughts on performative allyship, and diving into the wilder side of the gay scene in San Francisco. We close with a game of red flag dealbreaker – Silicon Valley tech bro edition.

Don’t slide into Rustom’s LinkedIn DMs – but DM him on Instagram for more SF bar recs : @zebirdman

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This week I interview long time friend and enabler in shenanigans, Nandini Taneja. We reminisce on the poor life decisions made at UCLA that put both our livelihood and dignity at risk on a number of occasions, and bonded us through the process. From there, we discuss the mindset behind being perpetually single, reluctance around defining the relationship, and coping with gaslighting and deception immediately after giving into the concept of exclusivity. Finally, Nandini opens up about the unintentional impact that her approach to dating had on gender roles and power dynamics, and explains how her approach and relationship status have evolved over time.

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For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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This week Interstates & Heartbreak features none other than my mom! She opens up with her honest thoughts about the podcast, and shares her side of some stories that I’ve told in previous episodes. From there, we dive into her experience teaching sex ed and the concept of healthy relationships as a high school biology teacher. We cover everything you “should” know (How do vasectomies really work? How do I calculate my ovulation cycle?) and the questions you never knew you needed the answers to (Does anyone really use dental dams? What’s the scientific name for blue balls?).

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For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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This week, Interstates & Heartbreak throws it back to episode one, with my inaugural podcast guest Denzel Walkes. We open with an update on Denzel’s dating life, and how one of my former guests inspired him to revamp his strategy on the apps. From there we unpack all of the implications around women asking men out, with a discussion ranging from the games people play in dating, traditional gender roles, and whether we’ve fully evolved beyond them. The episode closes with an unabashed critique of the traditional dating handbook, The Rules.

For even MORE hot takes from Denzel : @thatdenzel

And to hear his theatrical takes : No Concessions Podcast

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This Valentine’s Day I practice some self love…in the form of my second solo episode! I chronicle my experience joining OKCupid during a week with added dating pressure and my polarizing approach to crafting app bios. I then outline the profile tropes I encountered – ranging from seasonal fuckboys to Shakesperean poets.

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This week I interview Alex Noble about millennial motherhood, the experience of getting pregnant with her first child in high school, and her unadulterated account of the bodily changes that result. She opens up about breaking the news to her boyfriend’s Muslim parents, her mom’s priceless response, and coming to terms with reactions ranging from surprise to disappointment. We discuss learning how to co-parent after splitting from your partner, and the impact that motherhood has on your approach to re-entering the dating world. Finally, Alex reflects on grieving the loss of a partner, and her approach to guiding a child through the process of losing their parent.

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For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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This week I interview Rachel Scheer, dating coach and author of Date to Find Your Soulmate. Rachel shares some of her more memorable dating mishaps, including rodent-infested vehicles, a third-wheeling dad, and one particular noteworthy date that had a not-so-happy ending. We explore the impact that these experiences have had on her relationship philosophy to-date, and discuss lessons to be gleaned through all stages of dating, from swiping right, to defining the relationship, to cohabitation.

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This week, Laily Sharifzadeh and I look back at all of the past relationships (and non-relationships) that have shaped us into the daters we are today. We discuss leveling up from previous expectations (key word : ex), knowing your worth, and setting standards for future relationships. The episode rounds out with our online dating experiences, including Laily’s almost whirlwind romance and my attempt to DTR at the worst possible moment.

For affirmations and a glimpse into the photos that allow Laily to underpromise and overdeliver on the apps : @daily_laily

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This week, Interstates & Heartbreak gets political with activist and congressional campaigner Patrick Malkoun. We discuss how the modern political climate has seeped into our dating lives, including renewed dating criteria around political involvement and ideals, first date discussions around formerly taboo topics, and how love languages translate to community engagement. Patrick’s exposure to politically divided households on the campaign trail leads us to contemplate when and how couples with opposing views can move forward – and when ideological differences become a dealbreaker. In the midst of our heavier topics, Patrick provides a comeback for unwanted ass-grabbing, we debate the validity of chicken tenders as an entreé, and I reveal Patrick’s involvement in what went down as the worst date of my life.

For more fire commentary and content : @iammalkoun

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For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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This week on Interstates & Heartbreak, conflict resolution coach and Enneagram specialist Jenn Whitmer is here to provide an upgrade from your typical Buzzfeed personality quizzes. She guides us through the nuances of the nine Enneagram types at their healthiest and most pathological, identifies their corresponding love language, and reveals wihch personality is most likely to fall victim to the vices of lust, greed, and beyond. Our interview also reveals my type’s unexpected propensity for deception, and reveals why I’m more likely to cry during a commercial than IRL.

To access Jenn’s coaching resources, find her social links, or sign up for a free session : jennwhitmer.com

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For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope