Author: interstatesandheartbreak

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This week I interview Alex Noble about millennial motherhood, the experience of getting pregnant with her first child in high school, and her unadulterated account of the bodily changes that result. She opens up about breaking the news to her boyfriend’s Muslim parents, her mom’s priceless response, and coming to terms with reactions ranging from surprise to disappointment. We discuss learning how to co-parent after splitting from your partner, and the impact that motherhood has on your approach to re-entering the dating world. Finally, Alex reflects on grieving the loss of a partner, and her approach to guiding a child through the process of losing their parent.

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For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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This week I interview Rachel Scheer, dating coach and author of Date to Find Your Soulmate. Rachel shares some of her more memorable dating mishaps, including rodent-infested vehicles, a third-wheeling dad, and one particular noteworthy date that had a not-so-happy ending. We explore the impact that these experiences have had on her relationship philosophy to-date, and discuss lessons to be gleaned through all stages of dating, from swiping right, to defining the relationship, to cohabitation.

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For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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This week, Laily Sharifzadeh and I look back at all of the past relationships (and non-relationships) that have shaped us into the daters we are today. We discuss leveling up from previous expectations (key word : ex), knowing your worth, and setting standards for future relationships. The episode rounds out with our online dating experiences, including Laily’s almost whirlwind romance and my attempt to DTR at the worst possible moment.

For affirmations and a glimpse into the photos that allow Laily to underpromise and overdeliver on the apps : @daily_laily

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For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com

For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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This week, Interstates & Heartbreak gets political with activist and congressional campaigner Patrick Malkoun. We discuss how the modern political climate has seeped into our dating lives, including renewed dating criteria around political involvement and ideals, first date discussions around formerly taboo topics, and how love languages translate to community engagement. Patrick’s exposure to politically divided households on the campaign trail leads us to contemplate when and how couples with opposing views can move forward – and when ideological differences become a dealbreaker. In the midst of our heavier topics, Patrick provides a comeback for unwanted ass-grabbing, we debate the validity of chicken tenders as an entreé, and I reveal Patrick’s involvement in what went down as the worst date of my life.

For more fire commentary and content : @iammalkoun

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For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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This week on Interstates & Heartbreak, conflict resolution coach and Enneagram specialist Jenn Whitmer is here to provide an upgrade from your typical Buzzfeed personality quizzes. She guides us through the nuances of the nine Enneagram types at their healthiest and most pathological, identifies their corresponding love language, and reveals wihch personality is most likely to fall victim to the vices of lust, greed, and beyond. Our interview also reveals my type’s unexpected propensity for deception, and reveals why I’m more likely to cry during a commercial than IRL.

To access Jenn’s coaching resources, find her social links, or sign up for a free session : jennwhitmer.com

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For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com

For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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The first episode of the year features OKCupid success stories Megan Ladd and Will Rippetoe, returning for a joint episode! They share the anatomy of a good profile, what went into crafting their own OKCupid profiles, and what actually proved effective in attracting each other. We then dive into the creation of my own profile, which leads to debate over whether it’s appropriate to compare myself to Kobe, questioning how weird is TOO weird in a partner, and the realization that I may be a golddigger. This episode is the perfect motivation for anyone who resolved to get back on the apps or revamp their dating game in the new year. Alternatively, those entering 2021 with a partner can enjoy some renewed gratitude through the knowledge that the copious struggles of online dating are now behind you.

For corporate career advice, inspiration for your next dating app pick-up line, or to simply level up your marketing lingo : @willrippetoe

For tangible advice around how to successfully lean into your instincts, particularly as it comes to forging your career path : @megladd

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For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com

For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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This year I wrap up Interstates & Heartbreak the way many of us spent our quarantines – alone. For my first ever solo episode, I take time to reflect – not on the horror that was 2020, but on ghosts of New Year’s resolutions past taken straight from my 8th and 9th grade diaries. Take a listen for insight into the non-relationships that eventually shaped my relationship philosophy, insecurities around inexperience, and the crush that inspired one particularly “stupid and shallow” resolution.

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

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For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com

For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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‘Tis the season for an episode of Interstates & Heartbreak that delves into the challenges that arise when two faiths intersect, including the impact on holiday merriment and traditions. “Relationship Rabbi” Judy Greenfeld of the Nachshon Minyan congregation in Los Angeles shares the guidance that she provides interfatih couples through all stages of their relationship. Judy shares insight around all of the potential questions that may come up when entering an interfaith relationship. How early is too early to address religious differences? When is it right for one partner to convert to the other’s faith? How can we cope if their parents don’t accept my religion? And do I need to make my children choose between chocolate gelt and candy canes?

To learn more about Judy’s congregation : nachshonminyan.org

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For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com

For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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I interview Anna Goodman (aka Kevin from the Backstreet Butches, aka Dandy Frank) about growing up queer in Ohio and her eventual L-Word inspired move to LA. She shares how her now extensive network within the queer LA community essentially grew out of a DM slide at age 19 and solo nights out in West Hollywood. We address preconceived notions about the lesbian community, including incestuous friend groups and what people on Tinder really want when they say they’re “looking for a third.” Finally, we dive into the highs and lows of the dating apps, and get Anna’s (and my) honest reactions to personal ads.

For a peek into Anna’s life (and her Dandy Frank alter ego), find her on Instagram : @annargoods

If you’re looking for a way to virtually connect with the queer community in Los Angeles, check out @jqinternational and @opendykenight

To see Kevin’s contoured abs in full boyband action, check out : @backstreetbutches

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com

For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com

For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope